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Why do women feel insecure

You list several areas of concern that foster a woman's sense of security. What would you say is the most common denominator among women who face issues of insecurity?

Robin's Response

First of all, let me say that I think insecurity (in some form or another) is every woman’s battle. Of course, the intensity of that battle varies greatly. I think the common denominator comes from our God-given gift for relationship. We were created to be relational. For instance, a woman carries a baby within her womb, and then as soon as that baby comes out, he or she naturally attaches to her breast. Some of a little girl’s favorite “games” usually revolve around playing house, taking care of babies, and getting married. Around the teen years, many of us start making lists of what we’d like in a man. Relationship is our God-given legacy. We are pushed towards insecurity because our desire for relationship is so intense.

I think it’s also important to recognize that Satan delights in attacking us right where our gift lies. He wants to steal our gift for relationship (with God and others) and get us hiding in the bushes ashamed, much like Eve in the garden of Eden. When I realized that Satan was trying to steal my God-given gift of relationship, I got a lot more serious about battling for my security. Although we tend to overcomplicate insecurity, this also makes the solution simple. We become more secure when we use our God-given gift–relationship–to draw near to our Father and to other Christians.


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